This post is inspired by a couple years of personal turmoil over a silly topic to be debated. My new hero Jaymee brings up the subject in her Blog and my comment back to her was so long I just made it my own post here. Here is Jaymee's Blog (I swear this girl is in my head)

A BIG hot topic in Surrogacy is breastfeeding/pumping and the insecurities/jealousy issues IM's must have if they do not allow their surrogate to nurse to do not want to use breast milk.

My initial plan was to induce using Ask Elenore protocol with Domperidone and BCP's. I have a close friend who used and I saw it work wonderfully.

THEN came the pressure from the surrogacy world to be okay with a surro breastfeed in the hospital. I thought heck no! I will feed my baby thank you very much. It is the first thing I CAN do as a parent and I am going to do it. Plus to be really honest, I find it a little creepy.

This is where to much time to think got to me.......I started asking myself what was wrong with me that I didn't want my surro to nurse my child? I need to suck it up and get over myself. So THEN I decided I could do it and it's not such a big deal.

BUT of course I couldn't just stop there, in the end I wind back up with were I started. It's OKAY for me to want to feed my own child. People who do not have a surrogate do not have anyone pressuring them to have a friend nurse their child. At some point, we get to be a family like everyone else and make parental choices for our children without a HIPPA release and PBO in place. It doesn't mean I am ungrateful or bailing on my friend or surro who carried our child it just means she helped create a REAL family, one in which the parents are allowed to meet the child's' basic needs as they see fit.

I am so incredibly grateful we have two friends who will not only carry our children but respect our need to be a real family too.

*As a side note-I am not in favor of our surrogates eating the placentas either.......again, the creepy issue plus it's just gross......BLECH Now that I have completely offended the very crunchy parents and surro's I am done for now.