Isis and I were talking on the phone a while back and she started to wonder how big Jon was at birth. Jon is a big guy. He's a big basketball-playing athlete of a guy. Isis and I are both, umm, short. She has the distinction of having carried big babies though, I've only been tested with small and average babies. So Isis decided to tell Christy that we would transfer the big Jon embryos to her and the small Christy ones to me. The problem with that plan? Christy was the bigger baby at birth! ROFL She was a nice average baby, but Jon was a tiny little guy.
So, Christy and Jon, thank you for having small baby genes.
And Isis, thank you for a great laugh as always. I hope you don't mind I shared! heehee
At one point I wasn't even sure if I would be a surrogate again. Honestly, I was feeling sad about my "journey" even though I tried as hard as I could to be completely positive about it.
When I met Christy I met a real and honest woman who so badly wanted to have a baby. A woman who despite everything she was facing was still able to laugh and be open. When I met her I immediately felt like she was just who I would hope for as an IM. I even told her so! Of course she was matched and I was... busy. I was fortunate instead be able to become friends with her. I moved on and followed my heart, which lied to me mercilessly! When I came to my senses there was my friend, in need of a surrogate (or 2). Wow, how lucky am I to get to help my friend have a baby (or 4)?
I haven't met Isis yet, but I can't wait. My home is open to her anytime, and my heart is open to the great friendship that I know will develop. I feel like I know her already! :D
Oh, and Jon, he's okay too. Hahahahahahaha! :P
As we develop our team and deceide how to announce our new start to the world I figure that we will have an international following so we need to give out the announcement with some old school international flavor.
Mind you it's always a little fun to make people think and confuse them a little bit along the way. So here goes:
First the title of the post is: A Tale of Two Surros.
Ajysyt gave us this advice:
Don't loco totus of vestri eggs una alveus.
Don't put all of your eggs in one basket.
We understand that:
Ut portamus per praeter unus alveus procul a vicis, populus es amo voco nos bascauda theca.
As we carry with more than one basket at a time, people are likely to call us a basket case.
But,
Nos amo vivo periculosus
We like to live dangerously.
Fortunatly,
Nostrum alveus theca adepto per.
Our basket cases get along.
Thanks you two. For Joining our Adventure of a lifetime.
Now normally,
pullus adepto turbo ut vos utor praeter unus alveus.
The chickens get upset when you use more than one basket.
Fortunatly,
Nostrum alveus theca adepto per.
Our basket cases get along.
And we would like to say:
Gratiae vos duos. Pro Iunctio nostrum Adventum of a saeculorum.Thanks you two. For Joining our Adventure of a lifetime.
From Ecclesiastes 4:9-10:
"Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor.
For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up."
I find this passage quite relevant to our situation. In particular the fact that with a bigger team (which will hopefully include many cheerleaders as well) there is far greater emotional support.
How did I get HERE? I'm not really sure. It's a long story, full of a lot of different choices and possibilities. I could have easily been part of any number of different "teams" right now, so why did I choose this team? It is, after all, entirely unconventional in the already unconventional world of surrogacy. There will be people that think that we, that *I*, am crazy. I know that, but I know that what I am a part of is amazing and right.
Why would I CHOOSE to be one of two surros? I am doing this to help two wonderful people become parents together. Just like my husband and I, they do not want to have just one child together, but hope so much for children. Given the exact circumstances they face having two surrogates is their best hope for that dream. I will admit that when Christy told me that they were hoping for 2 surrogates that I was a bit surprised, I had never even considered it. I knew, however, that with them and the right 4th member of this team, it would be perfect. As "Isis" said to me once, her and I will forever share the bond of carrying siblings. Two uteruses, one family. Creating families is why I do this, this time I will have the added benefit of a lifelong friendship with 3 amazing people.
I think we are all mature enough to know that there will be some harder times ahead. Quite frankly, that is just unavoidable in something as important and intimate as creating families through surrogacy. I do believe, however, that we have the right people on this team to conquer any obstacles life presents us. So I look towards the near future with- optimism, anticipation, and excitement. Christy and Jon, thank you for choosing me to be a part of creating and nourishing your children. This is one team I knew I had to be on.
Ajysyt - The literal meaning is "Birthgiver". You can pronounce it as asia-sit.
She is the Mother goddess of the Turkic Yakut people from the Lena River region of Siberia.
Ajysyt was responsible for conducting the soul of a newborn child to its birth and attended every birth. She kept a golden book in which she recorded each one. She is said to have lived in a mountain, from which she controlled the fate of the world.
In legend she appeared to a white youth out of the roots of the Cosmic Tree (or world pillar of Yryn-al-tojon) which itself stood beside a lake of milk. By suckling the youth from her breasts she caused his strength to increase a hundredfold.
There is always a start to a story and this is our beginning. It is not our first time trying IVF or surrogacy to have a child, but the start of a new adventure.
This time we are working with two surrogates so we should have twice the fun. We have already given our surrogates names for this blog. They are Ajysyt and Isis and they will help us on our adventure of a lifetime.
This blog will be a collaboration between the two Intended Parents and the two surrogates.
So go get your popcorn and settle in to enjoy our story.
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